“Dare to love yourself
as if you were a rainbow
with gold at both ends.”
— Aberjhani (Journey through the Power of the Rainbow: Quotations from a Life Made Out of Poetry)
The beauty of aloneness and true love
Every human beings seaks true love. But what is „true love“? I believe, that true love starts within yourself. If you seek a partner, to get a feeling of wholeness from him, to be „at home“ through him, but your true concern is the attempt to escape your aloneness, then this is obviously not a good foundation for a long and happy relationship. There is this saying from Shakespeare: „To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.“ in other words: the love that we seek is here and now waiting for us in the heart of our aloneness, and only if you are “true to thine own self”, only if you are brave enough to meet yourself, to be with your self, to appreciate and enjoy yourself, you can have a truthful and trustful relationship to another being.
Then can you meet another being and share your aloneness with them, then it is a multiplied aloneness, one soul in two bodys, but you can’t escape your aloneness, it is a impossible struggle against yourself. Here in the heart of your aloneness can you find the source of true love and true aliveness. Here, within yourself, is your spiritual home, infinite beauty and inner peace, I call it the glorious presence of god or simply life. If you can’t find and love this presence within you, you can’t find and love this in another being and your relationship will become the desert of your negated and unloved aloneness. But if you are true to thine own self, your brave and shining aloneness will become like the garden of eden: all things and beings will blossom effortlessly in your presence and will be liberated and beautified.
You don’t need a partner to discover the presence of love and aliveness within yourself. You can celebrate it with or without a partner, but it is independent from your outer state of relationship. This is one of the paradoxical secrets of love: in the moment when you realize, that you don’t need a partner to be connected with love (or life) and a natural sense of your inherent wholeness, you live from a place of openness and you will attract spontaneously and naturally the right and perfect partner (“perfect” in that sense, that he (or she) is your perfect counterpart). And now you can enjoy it without expectations in the open vastness of your heart.
© mark david vinzens